In the depths of marriage despair, I had to consider Jeremiah 17: 9-10. The heart is deceitful above all things and desperately wicked; who can know it? Now I must wonder, if I would follow a girlfriend that was deceitful and desperately wicked?
I the Lord, search the heart, I test the mind. Could it be that my troubles are a result of God searching my heart and testing my mind? Maybe I have overlooked God’s involvement and given his glory over to the heartache telling me that the enemy is attacking my marriage. Did I forget the deal was for better and for worse?
Even to give every man according to his ways, According to the fruit of his doings. This is HUGE! What if I am being given life circumstances according to my ways? What has been my way? Have been a wife according to my way or God’s way? What is the fruit of my doings? Have I spent time seeking God for his response to these feelings of heartache?
Even in the midst of our greatest problems with our husbands I have good news! We can Stop following our hearts and begin to follow our minds.
- Our mind chooses to believe God hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). He is for our marriage success.
- Our mind reminds us that we are the wife by covenant (Malachi 2:14b).
- Our mind honors our commitment to our husbands and over powers our emotions.